Busy? It's just a great escape

This entry is being posted with reference to an article post by Anna Thomas which is published on My Paper, Friday February 22, 2008. There are of course my own opinion, but all credits to Anna Thomas.

Busy. How many times have we been using this word in our life? Countless. Even I, myself have been using it so many times. But do we really understand what this word really means? I do not know until I've read the article by Anna and it really makes sense.

"Claiming that i am busy implies that i am capable of utilising time, but that time is reserved for issues more important than the person I am speaking with. It is equivalent to saying that the other person is not my priority."

How true is it? Even in my own case, it stays very true. For example, when 2 friends ask me for assistance on the same day same time, I will generally tell one of them, the least important one that I am too busy helping the other person rather than being able to spare time to help him/her, though for my personality i would try to accommodate both.

Aside from all these, for those who are reading this current article. Ask yourself whether that particular friend/colleague/relative/family of yours is doing the same to you. If so, you should understand the pecking order of you inside his/her heart. And of course, ask yourself this question as well, what's the pecking order of a specific particular inside your heart as of now? This word 'Busy' should help you answer your question.

Ever since I've read this article, i begin to see more clearly. One friend of mine whom has been disappointing me all these while, yet claiming that she still regards me as an important friend, is just practically lying with or without her own knowledge. Unless it's critical issues like hospitalized, death, injuries, sickness, urgent help cases, generally how important that particular person is to you will determine his/her pecking order inside your heart. That's why she has been breaking promises after promises, outings after outings. She might not have realized it but this fact shall remains.

And of course after several disappointments, with regrets I'm saying, dear friend, I'm so sorry that you are no longer among the top of my list, you have gone down the pecking order. All my friends are important to me, so I'm not lying when I said you are important to me but it's just that when things clashes, you are way below in the list for my consideration.

My dear and my 2 closest buddies shall remain the top of the list behind my family members, with the rest of my friends hanging below with no specific order, coupled by acquaintances filling up the bottom.

Busy? Think again before you decline/accept any request/outings/dates.